Building Resilience in the Pediatric Medical Home Resource Guide For Providers and Families

Video Resources

Your pediatricians want to support you and your children on the "Road to Resilience!" Listen to our pediatricians give suggestions on how to develop resiliency in your child.

Road to Resiliency Part 1 

Road to Resiliency Part 2 

Road to Resiliency Part 3 

Road to Resiliency Part 4

Road to Resiliency Part 5

Road to Resiliency Part 6

All Ages Handouts for Providers and Families

Reaching IN Reaching Out Guidebook was created to increase awareness in child-serving professionals of the importance of promoting resilience in children through adult modeling of resilient thinking and behavior.

Neurodevelopmental Informed Parenting Resource List provides resources for parents related to co-regulation, positive discipline, and the science behind spanking and punishment.

Child Welfare Resource Guide was developed by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Children’s Bureau to support service providers in their work with parents, caregivers, and their children to prevent child abuse and neglect and promote child and family well-being.

Child Welfare Tip Sheet provides tips on specific parenting issues and strategies for parents, programs and community partners to promote child well-being.

The Seven Cs handout describes the building blocks of resiliency.

The Positive Parenting Pyramid is a style of raising children that the American Academy of Pediatrics endorses: Connect, Coach, Correct.

Praise and Encouragement provides examples of praise and encouragement to build competence and confidence.

The Road to Resilience handout illustrates what kids need to travel the many bumps, twists and turns of life. This handout is well-organized and could serve as a discussion piece at Well-Child visits.

Organizational Resilience Philosophy helps providers reflect on their programs’ ability answer the essential questions “Do we believe in every young person unconditionally and hold them to high expectations?” and “Do we sincerely believe that every child can succeed?”

Collaborative Problem Solving Plan helps parents eliminate challenging episodes with children by helping their children solve the problems that cause them in a collaborative and proactive way.

Dr. Amy Stoeber’s Yolky Feelings Exercise helps children learn how to process and find the proper terminology for their feelings through an egg yolk analogy.

Understanding ACEs handout is a great 1-page handout for patients that defines ACEs and resilience in easy-to-understand terms.

Articles for Providers and Families

Promotion of Positive Parenting research study that determines what effects pediatric primary care interventions have on socioemotional development of toddlers from low-income, primarily immigrant households.

Building Resiliency: The Power to Cope with Adversity was published by UCLA and Children’s Hospital Boston. It provides evidence-based tools to help parents build resilience.

PNAS resource provides link to an article on the shortening of the telomere length with increasing ACEs.

Fostering Resilience: Teaching Social-Emotional Skills published by the National Association for the Education of Young Children

Online Resources for Providers and Families

Reaching IN… Reaching OUT (RIRO) creates evidence-based programs that teach resiliency thinking and coping skills to adults and young children under the age of 8 years so that they can reach IN to face life’s challenges and reach OUT to others and opportunities that encourage healthy development.

Fostering Resiliency is dedicated to improving the lives of youth through advocacy and education. Foster Resiliency provides training, speaking, and coaching for organizations to support their mission of supporting youth to reach their full potential.

Resiliency In Action, Inc. is a pioneering publishing and training company founded in 1996 by Nan Henderson, Bonnie Benard, and Nancy Sharp-Light. The mission of the company is to share the growing body of social science research that documents how people of all ages bounce back from life challenges of all kinds. In addition, these founders wanted to make the strategies recommended by this research accessible to everyone.

Circle of Support Resource explanation and guide.

Resilience Trumps ACEs is working to increase the positive, resilience-building experiences in the lives of the children, parents and families in our community. How? We are creating a community conversant in ACEs and Resilience, starting with awareness and education. 
Online Resources for Parents 

Empowering Parents provides parenting content you can use to help turn around your child’s behavior, right away. 

Calm: Meditation to Relax, Focus, and Sleep Better is a phone app that provides guided meditation exercises.

Common Sense Media empowers parents, teachers, and policymakers by providing unbiased information, trusted advice, and innovative tools to help them harness the power of media and technology as a positive force in all kids’ lives.

Vroom is a Seattle-based company that provides families with things that they can do with their children each day to stimulate development, interaction, and resiliency. provides training and instruction for using collaborative problem solving with challenging kids.

Video Resources for Providers and Families

Dr. Dean Moshofsky’s Collection of Resilience videos featuring conversations with families during well-child visits. These videos are a great example of resilience interventions in action!

Please contact the Children’s Health Alliance at for the password to this video collection

An example of voice modulation in the delivery room from comedian Michael Jr.

Brene Brown’s Video on Empathy is a great short video with animation for parents.

Dr. Amy Stoeber co-hosts a parenting talk show called "The Motherload- Not Your Mother's Parenting Advice." Episode 10 and Episode 11 is a 2-part series on "Healthy Family Habits" that includes more interventions like the “Red Plate Program" and Alfie Kohn's "Love Withdrawals." Several books are mentioned as well.

Books for Providers and Families

Children and Trauma: A Guide for Parents and Professionals by Cynthia Monahon teaches parents and professionals about the effects of trauma on children and offers a blueprint for restoring a child’s sense of safety and balance.

Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting by Dr. Laura Markham helps parents better understand their own emotions- and get them in check- so they can parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication to raise a self-disciplined child.

The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr. Bessel Can Der Kolk uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshaped both body and brain, comprising sufferers’ capacities for please, engagement, self-control, and trust. This book explores innovative treatments that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity.

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting by Dr. John Gottman is a groundbreaking guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world.

Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science by Tracy Cutchlow cuts to the chase, summarizing the best parenting research in bite-sized chunks.

The Secrets of Happy Families by Bruce Feiler has drawn up a blueprint for modern families- a new approach to family dynamics, inspired by cutting-edge techniques gathered from experts in the disciplines of science, business, sports, and the military.

Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings by Dr. Kenneth Ginsberg guides parents and other caring adults how to help kids from the age of 18 months to 18 years build the seven crucial “C’s”

The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood by Selma H Fraiberg takes the reader into the mind of the child, showing how he confronts the world and learns to cope with it.

Whole Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Dr. Daniel J. Siegel explains-and makes accessible- the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures.

The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Dr. Ross Greene helps families understand why and when children behave this way and how to respond in ways that are non-punitive, non-adversarial, humane, and effective. This collaborative problem solving plan handout correlates to this book.

Queen Bees and Wannabes is a book that Dr. Amy Stoeber recommends to help adults look at girls’ friendships and conflicts–from how they choose their best friends, how they express their anger, their boundaries with boys, and their relationships with their parents.

Books for Children

Our Friendship Rules by Peggy Moss and Alissa Imre Geis is both a lyrical story of forgiveness and a guidebook on relationships.

Drums, Girls, and Dangerous Pie by Jordan Sonnenblick is about an eighth grade boy whose 5-year-old brother has leukemia (the follow-up book After Ever After is about the younger brother, now in 8th grade, who loses a friend to cancer).

A Crooked Kind of Perfect by Linda Urban addresses learning how to be ok when your life and family aren’t perfect.

Have you Filled a Bucket Today? A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids by Carol McCloud and David Messing a great book to talk to preschool and grade school children about feelings, how what they say or do affects others’ feelings, and how helping someone else helps us (it fills our buckets too!). It can make for great dinner time conversations… “Whose bucket did you fill today? How? Did someone fill your bucket today? Did you notice anyone with an empty bucket? -- A favorite of Dr. Amy Stoeber!

Here are some great companion resources for bucket filling, including a journal for recording thoughts, feelings, and experiences about each day.

The American Girl Series helps teach resilience through building connections and expanding imaginations.

Games for Families

Coping Skills Bingo fosters conversation and discussion about coping with stress.

How Do You Feel is a game that helps young learners build visual discrimination skills by completing facial expression puzzles.

Resources for Infancy

Bright Futures for Your Child: How to Promote Early Brain & Child Development is a developmental handout for parents with children ages 0-3 years-old. This resource was adapted by Dr. Dean Moshofsky from the American Academy of Pediatrics Bright Futures Guidelines.

Dr. Casares Outside the Bubble Resource is a tool parents can use to get through and to learn from stressful situations with their new infants.

Resources for Early Childhood

Dr. Dinsmore’s Questions for well-visits with patients

Circle of Support Resource explanation and guide

The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood by Selma H Fraiberg takes the reader into the mind of the child, showing how he confronts the world and learns to cope with it.

Special Time Intervention and The Magic Years intervention from Dr. Meyers and selected book excerpt from The Magic Years

Kindergarten Readiness tips adapted from Childhood Health Associates of Salem

Resources for Middle Childhood

How to Start Conversations about Challenges exercise from Dr. Collins provides steps for parents when having conversations with their children about bouncing back from challenges.

Recharge your Battery encouragement exercise from Dr. Deenadayalu helps children who are feeling drained.

Dr. Amy Stoeber’s Yolky Feelings exercise helps children learn how to process and find the proper terminology for their feelings through an egg yolk analogy.

Resources for Early Adolescence

Resilience Under Construction handout by Dr. Moshofsky

Dr. Collins’ Life Preserver Exercise handout helps parents help their children think about “who is on their team” or “who are their life preservers” through dialogue and questions.

Collaborative Problem Solving Plan helps parents eliminate challenging episodes with children by helping their children solve the problems that cause them in a collaborative and proactive way.

Resources for Late Adolescence

Failure: Stumbling Block or Building Block tool for teaching resilience through failures.

Flipping your Lid: A Scientific Explanation, video by Dan Siegel that explores the basis of tantrums.

Whole Brain Child Workbook by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson includes activities that parents can do on their own or with their kids to move towards a deeper connection.

Confidence and Coping Tupperware Analogy from Dr. Grucella

Books for Parents with Teenagers

Staying Connected to Your Teenager: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They’re Really Saying by Michael Riera helps frustrated parents reconnect with their teenager and keep that connection even in today’s often-crazy world.

Dad, Here’s What I Really Need from You: A Guide for Connecting with Your Daughter’s Heart by Dr. Michelle Watson of The Abba Project provides ideas, encouragement, timely information, dialogue helps, and biblical references for dads.

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Dr. Dan Siegel explores ways in which understanding how the brain functions can improve the lives of adolescents, making their relationships more fulfilling and less lonely and distressing on both sides of the generational divide.

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